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Relationship Counseling

If you feel alone in your relationship or if you suffer from anxiety or excessive worry in your relationship, there are ways to minimize and reduce these worries and focus on building healthier relationships.

Building healthy relationships is essential to leading happy, productive and fulfilling lives. Kathryn Grooms & Associates Psychotherapy in New York City can help you create healthier, more meaningful and satisfying relationships.

We experience many different kinds of relationships over the course of our lives.

Navigating the various relationships in our lives can be challenging. At Kathryn Grooms & Associates Psychotherapy in New York City, our experienced team of licensed therapists have the professional experience to guide you through whatever relationship challenges you are experiencing. And, we help you work through the challenging aspects of relationships — including the relationship you have with yourself — and we help guide you on the journey toward building healthier relationships in your life.

If you feel distant in your relationship or if you feel as though you keep repeating the same old arguments with the same unsatisfactory resolutions, relationship therapy can help. In partner relationships, it is not uncommon to feel frustrated and stuck from time to time. Our therapists work with partnerships and couples of various structures (polyamorous, non-monogamous, and monogamous), an individuals seeking to build healthy relationships.

When a romantic relationship is new there is excitement and a natural curiosity to get to know everything about the other person. This is an exciting time in a relationship where everything feels perfect and hopeful and right. Over time, however, this curiosity and sense of wonder may start to wane and the initial excitement of every day slips into more of an everyday routine. This is common, of course, as the newness wears off. When relationships progress, sometimes we can turn on autopilot and behave with less intentionality. We take things, and people, for granted. And we slip into routines that may begin to feel dull, stale, and uninspiring.

When the newness goes away, the relationship can still thrive and be satisfying and meaningful for all involved with a little bit of work and a shared commitment.

In fact, this is often where the magic is. There is opportunity and hopefulness in choosing to recognize what is no longer working in a relationship and then using that insight to mold your relationship, together, into what you both desire it to be.

By making the decision to consider entering into therapy, you’re acknowledging that this relationship is important to you and that working to improve it is a priority.

No matter the kind of relationship concerns you may bring to therapy, at Kathryn Grooms & Associates Psychotherapy in New York City, you will find a calm, welcoming environment with highly trained therapists ready to listen and help you strengthen and build healthy relationships.

One of the prerequisites to building and sustaining healthy relationships with others is to ensure we have a healthy relationship with ourselves. And that often means beginning from a place of openness and acceptance with ourselves and the stories that live inside us and affect how we interact with others.

One key component of relationship therapy involves the role that shame plays in our relationships. We can often be our own worst critics.

As professional therapists, our job is to first strive to fully understand our clients and that includes learning about any traumas or unresolved issues from the past (childhood or recent past) as well as the present. What stories were you told about yourself? Which stories did you choose to believe? Which were true and which were not? And how have these stories shaped your internal dialogue, your feelings of self-worth, and thus, the way you interact with others?

Identifying and deconstructing shame about who we are and how we feel and act is such a valuable process. It can help create more emotional intimacy and help cultivate better relationships with family, friends, coworkers, romantic partners, and others. By breaking down this roots of shame, we can become more compassionate toward ourselves which, in turn, allows you to be more compassionate with others in your life.

At Kathryn Grooms & Associates Psychotherapy in New York City, our goal with every client is to create an affirming space. A space in which you can feel safe and respected and valued and comfortable enough to share your truth with us free from shame or judgment.

It’s ok to feel angry, sad, confused, or even hopeless about a relationship. Once those feelings and emotions are mentioned in the safe space of therapy, then we can begin the hard work of figuring out how to use those emotions to make choices and create one of the most essential aspects of building healthy relationships: boundaries.

Developing healthy boundaries is crucial to building strong and lasting relationships. Having healthy boundaries means you are prioritizing your own mental health and wellbeing first and by knowing and respecting your needs and wishes. When we do this, we are showing the other person we respect them enough to be honest and authentic.

Whatever the nature of your relationship and the concerns you have about your relationship, our highly trained therapists are compassionate and understanding and working together with you, they can help you become more hopeful about the future of your relationships.

There is an old saying ‘you teach people how to treat you.’ And to a certain extent this is true. If your relationship has you feeling worn out, exhausted, or depleted of energy, it could be due to lack of boundaries. If we continue to give and and give and give while getting little in return, the relationship becomes very one-sided and can become emotionally, physically, and spiritually draining.

You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. A healthy relationship is one marked by mutual respect and understanding. And one way to achieve this is by creating boundaries.

Creating healthy boundaries is a critical step toward building healthy relationships. Our therapists can help you identify, establish, and enforce the boundaries you create. Boundaries are a way to tell the other person in the relationship what is and what is not acceptable. It is a way of sharing expectations without judgment.

Boundaries in relationships let the other person know what will and will not be tolerated in your interactions. Setting clear boundaries can feel a little uneasy, especially if your relationship has existed for awhile with few or no boundaries. But having these uncompromising understandings in place is important. These are different from so-called “rules of engagement” because both people do not need to agree to them. You set the boundaries for your life. When applied and reinforced, boundaries can be good tools for navigating difficult or challenging relationships with others and for ensuring your mental health and wellbeing.

Entering into therapy to build healthy relationships is a worthwhile goal and one that our therapists will support and encourage you on at every step of your journey. We welcome you to our practice with compassion and understanding as well as a deep willingness to understand your story, your needs, and your goals.

Kathryn Grooms & Associates Psychotherapy in New York City is a practice rooted in authentic, holistic practices. Here you will discover a therapy practice free of shame, stigma, and judgment. We respect you as an individual and because there is no one size fits all prescription for healthy relationships, we will work together with you to help you achieve your highest vision for a healthy relationship.

COVID-19 UPDATE

During this unprecedented time, you may be experiencing increasing feelings of uncertainty, loss, anxiety, fear, grief or rage. We are all experiencing a different reality and it can and will affect everyone very differently.

Whether you’re performing an essential job that requires long hours and potential risk to your health, or you’re navigating school re-opening, returning to work or continuing to work from home and practicing social distancing, please know that you are not alone.

We are pleased to offer the same level of compassionate care through the convenience and confidentiality of TeleTherapy services, accessible on your computer, tablet, or phone. We are welcoming fully vaccinated clients to return to the office for in-person sessions on a case by case basis.

Please stay safe and know that we are with you.

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Payment can be cash, check or credit card. (Please note: there is a surcharge of $2.50 per invoice.) Payment is expected at the time of each session. We are an out-of-network provider with all insurance companies. On a monthly basis we will be happy to provide receipts and/or completed insurance forms for you to submit for out of network reimbursement.
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